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stugumby
07-11-2006, 11:31 PM
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greetings and salutations: I am enduring a midlife crisis, I cant seem to focus or really relax and enjoy anything, including this fine sim.... lately I have an irresitable urge to throw my extra cash into MULTI TOOLS.. can you believe it, how many swiss tools does a man need...??? Im really peeved at myself for this bizarre behavior, have bought 6 swiss pocket knives and 4 tools since my mom died back in sept. Cant finger it out, maybe its a coping thing. And as we all know a swiss knife is usually only a 1 blade/tool difference.

I hate to snivel but is this normal or am I losing my grip??? Bought one today the compact model, totally insane purchase as many others i already have do the same or more. Worst of all I usually dont do much handyman stuff either... Do I need professional help or do I just quietly go bonkers filing things with my swiss tool x???

stugumby
07-11-2006, 11:31 PM
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greetings and salutations: I am enduring a midlife crisis, I cant seem to focus or really relax and enjoy anything, including this fine sim.... lately I have an irresitable urge to throw my extra cash into MULTI TOOLS.. can you believe it, how many swiss tools does a man need...??? Im really peeved at myself for this bizarre behavior, have bought 6 swiss pocket knives and 4 tools since my mom died back in sept. Cant finger it out, maybe its a coping thing. And as we all know a swiss knife is usually only a 1 blade/tool difference.

I hate to snivel but is this normal or am I losing my grip??? Bought one today the compact model, totally insane purchase as many others i already have do the same or more. Worst of all I usually dont do much handyman stuff either... Do I need professional help or do I just quietly go bonkers filing things with my swiss tool x???

WWSensei
07-11-2006, 11:50 PM
What's broken isn't going to be fixed by a new shiny multi-tool. You already know what's wrong or you wouldn't be posting. Time to be honest with yourself and make a decision to press on or surrender. Don't think you would have posted if you wanted quit so the next move is yours.

No one else can do it for you, but you can get through it. You aren't the first and won't be the last.

For me it was PDAs. http://forums.ubi.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_cool.gif

-HH-Quazi
07-12-2006, 12:06 AM
I just hope when it is my turn, it will be upgrading my gaming rig parts. Oh, wait a minute...I do that alot already. I may be experiencing the same thing at 41 yrs of age. HEHE

Hang in there friend. It could be some kind of coping deal related to your mothers passing if you can relate this behaviour to have started around the same time. And if it is, then we all handle things differently. Only you can know whether or not you need to see a doc. What do those close to you think? Have you inquired of anyone you call friend in real life that knows you well and has seen your behaviour taking a sharpe turn? They could probably tell you better than anyone if they think you seeing a doc would help, besides yourself. When my dad went through it, it was credit card purchases and doing off the wall things like chartering an aircraft to fly us to see his brother two states away. He finally settled down after a time. Hang tough m8.

russ.nl
07-12-2006, 12:14 AM
Always look on the bright side of life.
tum tudum tudum tudum tudum
Always look on the bright side of life.

Srry that's all the lines I know of that song http://forums.ubi.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_biggrin.gif

stansdds
07-12-2006, 04:07 AM
I'm going through the mid-life crisis thing too, even thinking of trashing my 11 year to date career and doing something else. http://forums.ubi.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_eek.gif

I450IVex
07-12-2006, 04:11 AM
buy some model kits mate, dive in with both feet, airbrushes, paints, dremels, micro surgery drills, styrene sheet stockpiles, 20 different files, a new work bench, a spray booth... and then if your not broke buy a kit and make it http://forums.ubi.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_smile.gif

SeaFireLIV
07-12-2006, 04:50 AM
I thought midlife crisis only really affected women, not men. I guess it affects some men to a much smaller extent perhaps? I`m 39, hope I don`t start doing something stupid when I get to that point.

Doubt it.

Oh and good luck to you, m8. I don`t really think you have a problem. Just do alternative computer war games or sports (maybe take up Karate) and get that aggression out.

skycaptain_1
07-12-2006, 05:31 AM
<BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-title">quote:</div><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-content">Originally posted by SeaFireLIV:
I thought midlife crisis only really affected women, not men. . </div></BLOCKQUOTE>


No I think thats the menapause SeaFireLIV http://forums.ubi.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_smile.gif

At what age does a midlife crisis begin I need to put it in my new diary...I have several now one for each month and.....oh no not me too!

SeaFireLIV
07-12-2006, 05:44 AM
<BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-title">quote:</div><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-content">Originally posted by skycaptain_1:
<BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-title">quote:</div><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-content">Originally posted by SeaFireLIV:
I thought midlife crisis only really affected women, not men. . </div></BLOCKQUOTE>


No I think thats the menapause SeaFireLIV http://forums.ubi.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_smile.gif

At what age does a midlife crisis begin I need to put it in my new diary...I have several now one for each month and.....oh no not me too! </div></BLOCKQUOTE>


LOL, you`re right... maybe MY midlife crisis has begun! http://forums.ubi.com/images/smilies/16x16_smiley-very-happy.gif

Flying_Nutcase
07-12-2006, 06:21 AM
Hi stugumpy,

I sort of know how you feel. Given that it generally helps to know that others are in a similar spot, here's my situ:

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After about 15 years of working in jobs that have been sometimes really rewarding but usually just monotonous bollocks, I've really truly HAD IT, to my core. I'm really lucky now that I have the best J-O-B I could hope for. But I intend it to be my last.

In recent months the whole concept of a job just seems horrid. I'm trying to work out whether I feel more like a beggar, a slave or a prostitute. Maybe a combination of all three. I'm really sick of doing something only because of the money and doing this and doing that like some kind of trained monkey.

((Mind you being greeted with "Gregg-sensei, hello!!" by a bunch of cute, high-pitched Japanese high school girls isn't part of the drain. http://forums.ubi.com/images/smilies/16x16_smiley-wink.gif))

I've given myself until the end of March 2008 to establish one or more online businesses that will cover for a full time passive income. After that I'm back to beautiful New Zealand to play Storm Of War, enjoy the outdoors and maintain/build the online income. http://forums.ubi.com/images/smilies/heart.gif No more jobs thanks. Just the thought of going to a job interview gives me images of a desperate bum down on his knees begging for scraps.

All of the above is just how I feel. No disrespect meant to anyone in anyway. But it bothers me a little when someone's going back home from here and in reply to the question "What'll you do when you get home?", the answer is almost unanimously "Oh, look for a job I guess." It doesn't sound too inspiring, does it.

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So you're not alone in the imperfection of life. Whatever's bothering you, I hope you can get it sorted. Don't be afraid to talk to someone. Most people are good people and will understand and help as they can.

Bon Voyage Mate,


Gregg/Nutcase

BTW I DO actually enjoy the 'in-the-trenches' teaching part and have a lot of fun with my students and fellow teachers. It's the whole 'job' concept that I've had enough of.

LEBillfish
07-12-2006, 08:41 AM
stugumby, it's clear atm you're somewhat confused still wanting to buy even more "multi-tools" yet though hinting at what you really want, not filling the void/need......The answer obvious.

Everyone has "multi-tools", what you're desiring is a "multi-tool, repair multi-tool" so you'll have the ability to repair your multi-tools. As a matter of fact, then you could start life anew....Repairing other people's multi-tools with your multi-tool repair multi-tool.................Either that or you want breast implants http://forums.ubi.com/images/smilies/25.gif

SO you're close, so in having no psychological experience I can say that most definitely, maybe, sorta, heck, I don't know....... http://forums.ubi.com/images/smilies/16x16_smiley-indifferent.gif

russ.nl
07-12-2006, 08:54 AM
<BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-title">quote:</div><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-content">Originally posted by LEBillfish:
stugumby, it's clear atm you're somewhat confused still wanting to buy even more "multi-tools" yet though hinting at what you really want, not filling the void/need......The answer obvious.

Everyone has "multi-tools", what you're desiring is a "multi-tool, repair multi-tool" so you'll have the ability to repair your multi-tools. As a matter of fact, then you could start life anew....Repairing other people's multi-tools with your multi-tool repair multi-tool.................Either that or you want breast implants http://forums.ubi.com/images/smilies/25.gif

SO you're close, so in having no psychological experience I can say that most definitely, maybe, sorta, heck, I don't know....... http://forums.ubi.com/images/smilies/16x16_smiley-indifferent.gif </div></BLOCKQUOTE>

What a help this must be http://forums.ubi.com/images/smilies/88.gif Now he's more confused then he was. Or maybe I am http://forums.ubi.com/images/smilies/blink.gif

Seems to me that the midlife crises for men is sort of getting in tuch with your femal side http://forums.ubi.com/images/smilies/16x16_smiley-wink.gif. Buying stuff you don't need and so on.
I never plan to get a midlife crises. I'm to young now and I'm not pushing away problems I feel now, till I'm in my mid-life.

Anyway your actions say alot. You buy swiss knifes and multi-tools. This means that you want to fix something in your life. Perhaps something between you and your mother. Or the way the relationship ended. Maybe how the relationship was. You know this. Now that it has become a "one way traffic" kind of relationship doesn't mean you can't fix it.
Observe yourself and look what you are doing and thinking.

Oh well, be well.

slipBall
07-12-2006, 08:58 AM
Flying_Nutcase
<BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-title">quote:</div><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-content">I've given myself until the end of March 2008 to establish one or more online businesses that will cover for a full time passive income </div></BLOCKQUOTE>



I have been struggling with this, care to share some idea's http://forums.ubi.com/images/smilies/winky.gif

VW-IceFire
07-12-2006, 09:26 AM
Just be thankful they hadn't invented the quarterlife crisis at your ages! My generation is currently enduring the quarterlife crisis...out of school...out of work...wanting to start things up but totally incapable of doing so and wanting to purchase all of the things that the midlife crisis people want but without any money in their name.

Midlife crisis sounds like a walk in the park in comparison.

LEBillfish
07-12-2006, 09:57 AM
<BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-title">quote:</div><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-content">Originally posted by VW-IceFire:
Just be thankful they hadn't invented the quarterlife crisis at your ages! My generation is currently enduring the quarterlife crisis...out of school...out of work...wanting to start things up but totally incapable of doing so and wanting to purchase all of the things that the midlife crisis people want but without any money in their name.

Midlife crisis sounds like a walk in the park in comparison. </div></BLOCKQUOTE>


Not really............You're questioning how you can make happen what you want, and though seeming possibly insurmountable you cannot even imagine the incredible opportunities that lay ahead.....All you need is a bit of optimism, faith in yourself and even the most minimal of efforts. You'll do great!

In contrast a midlife crisis is mulling over all you gave up, passed by, opportunities lost, and little time to make it all happen now seeing an end to the road vs. the "I'll either live forever OR fatalistic will die in a year" attitude........The crisis how can you make up for it now, a crisis in that you can't without disrupting everything your life has stood for and you've built to date. So most try and compensate finding they have only wasted more time or money.

My honest suggestion for stugumby?......Start fishing, maybe even taking a trip far away to do so which is even better. The time to think and focus on something calming may well work wonders. Either that or go get a "rub & a tug"...Amazing how that soothes most men. http://forums.ubi.com/images/smilies/16x16_smiley-wink.gif

Ares_336sqn
07-12-2006, 11:59 AM
<BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-title">quote:</div><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-content">Originally posted by stugumby:
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I am enduring a midlife crisis, I cant seem to focus or really relax and enjoy anything, including this fine sim.... lx??? </div></BLOCKQUOTE>

When doctors have a problem they go to another to seek a diagnosis. Self-diagnosis is not an option.
If you can not relax, focus and can not enjoy life, there can be a lot of reasons other than this, obscure, but loved by the life style magazines, "midlife crisis".
What is wrong with seeking some help? It will not hurt you... just your wallet http://forums.ubi.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_smile.gif
And do not expect some answer or magical solution after 5 minutes, it does not work that way. it is up to you.

Rebel_Yell_21
07-12-2006, 02:09 PM
<BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-title">quote:</div><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-content">Originally posted by LEBillfish:
Either that or go get a "rub & a tug"...Amazing how that soothes most men. http://forums.ubi.com/images/smilies/16x16_smiley-wink.gif </div></BLOCKQUOTE>

Good at ANY age. http://forums.ubi.com/images/smilies/winky.gif

Platypus_1.JaVA
07-12-2006, 03:33 PM
If I read some of the simptones (spelling?) for the midlife crises, I think I'm having one myself.

And I will be 26 in two weeks http://forums.ubi.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_rolleyes.gif

I have years and years of modelkits laying around the house and I keep on buying them.

"quote by Stugumby"
greetings and salutations: I am enduring a midlife crisis, I cant seem to focus or really relax and enjoy anything, including this fine sim....

And that too.

VW-IceFire
07-12-2006, 04:44 PM
<BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-title">quote:</div><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-content">Originally posted by LEBillfish:
<BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-title">quote:</div><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-content">Originally posted by VW-IceFire:
Just be thankful they hadn't invented the quarterlife crisis at your ages! My generation is currently enduring the quarterlife crisis...out of school...out of work...wanting to start things up but totally incapable of doing so and wanting to purchase all of the things that the midlife crisis people want but without any money in their name.

Midlife crisis sounds like a walk in the park in comparison. </div></BLOCKQUOTE>


Not really............You're questioning how you can make happen what you want, and though seeming possibly insurmountable you cannot even imagine the incredible opportunities that lay ahead.....All you need is a bit of optimism, faith in yourself and even the most minimal of efforts. You'll do great!

In contrast a midlife crisis is mulling over all you gave up, passed by, opportunities lost, and little time to make it all happen now seeing an end to the road vs. the "I'll either live forever OR fatalistic will die in a year" attitude........The crisis how can you make up for it now, a crisis in that you can't without disrupting everything your life has stood for and you've built to date. So most try and compensate finding they have only wasted more time or money.

My honest suggestion for stugumby?......Start fishing, maybe even taking a trip far away to do so which is even better. The time to think and focus on something calming may well work wonders. Either that or go get a "rub & a tug"...Amazing how that soothes most men. http://forums.ubi.com/images/smilies/16x16_smiley-wink.gif </div></BLOCKQUOTE>
Is it a bad thing that both descriptions apply to me? Or am I being self centered? http://forums.ubi.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_smile.gif

Dance
07-12-2006, 04:55 PM
Stug, ur no more nearer flipping out than the rest of us, take it from a 41 yr old with more than a passing aquaintance to where ur at.

Airmail109
07-12-2006, 05:12 PM
Ive flipped out and had a midlife crisis - thing is im only 18.

Well I guess now at least i know what i want to do, guess its good i realised this now and not 40 years down the road.

Sod exams, sod a boring office job or a job as a teacher, stuff owning a house, stuff mortgages, screw credit cards, to hell with having a wife, noooo way am i having kids, **** the internet....im off to explore the world and train to be a mountain/expedition leader....

Airmail109
07-12-2006, 05:15 PM
(Ok mods.....sorry i didnt know there was a trigger thingy now for language, please ignore that post u dont have to read it)

Ive had a midlife crisis,and im only 18.

Flipped out, and decided i dont want a house, i dont want a wife, i dont want a mortgage, i dont want a credit card, i dont want the bloomin internet...i just want to get away, explore the world and train as a mountain/expedition leader. Lead the alternative life.

boxduty
07-12-2006, 05:16 PM
I don't understand this thread.

I'm going through a midlife crisis I guess...

Airmail109
07-12-2006, 05:18 PM
Since when was there a bad language detector on this forum anyway?

james_ander
07-12-2006, 05:22 PM
Swiss multi tools??!!

You've got it all wrong. You need:

1. Hair plugs
2. Sports car
3. Scandously younger new girlfriend.

Then you can call what you are going through a midlife crisis.

Buying Swiss multi-tools is not nearly as disasterous, nor do you look as stupid, as when procuring the above three.

Relax. A few pocket knives does not a midlife crisis make (talking in wise Yoda voice).

boxduty
07-12-2006, 05:23 PM
Did I just post here?

Must be the midlife crisis in me getting twitchy

vocatx
07-12-2006, 05:28 PM
Billfish, I LIKE da way ya think.

Stugumby, I'd take her advice, if I were you!

stugumby
07-12-2006, 10:23 PM
http://forums.ubi.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_frown.gif

well a rub and tug, is that the same as steam and cream at the local house of happy endings? That sounds appealing but consequences could be nasty indeed, and knowing my luck it would be the time of the yearly raid. A bit hard to explain to significant other...


But back to whats bugging me, I used to be an avid model buuilder and did one of those compromises to save marriage, models had to go when moving to smaller house etc, no basement didnt compute in ming's brain housing group, went from 2400 sq feet to 1450.. all fit in boxes in garage but had to compromise. since then no escape except work and game.

last 3 years have been the hardest of my 45 yrs. both parents died 3 years apart and welcome to the work force at 45 as a semi crippled gimp from army with no degree... what an eye opener it has been.

Ares_336sqn
07-13-2006, 04:30 AM
Look, this is not the right place for this. Even 18 years old kids will jump out and give you advice. people here argue with aeroengineers and real pilots about flight models and stuff, do you think they would not have the nerve to suggest a diagnosis and a treatment to your problem?
So, if you want help, go to a professional. nothing wrong with it and, no, it does not mean you are loosing your grip! It only takes a little courage.
you know, sometimes you see a person walking a rocky narrow path and when you show him the large avenue right next to him, he refuses to take that and keeps bleeding his knees. Why? because that rocky path is the only road he knows.

VVaFFenPanZZeR
07-13-2006, 05:06 AM
A rub, and a tug only last so long. Then it fades away till the next time. Although fishing and a rub and a tug, could do the trick.

VVaFFenPanZZeR
07-13-2006, 05:10 AM
<BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-title">quote:</div><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-content">Originally posted by stugumby:
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well a rub and tug, is that the same as steam and cream at the local house of happy endings? That sounds appealing but consequences could be nasty indeed, and knowing my luck it would be the time of the yearly raid. A bit hard to explain to significant other...


But back to whats bugging me, I used to be an avid model buuilder and did one of those compromises to save marriage, models had to go when moving to smaller house etc, no basement didnt compute in ming's brain housing group, went from 2400 sq feet to 1450.. all fit in boxes in garage but had to compromise. since then no escape except work and game.

last 3 years have been the hardest of my 45 yrs. both parents died 3 years apart and welcome to the work force at 45 as a semi crippled gimp from army with no degree... what an eye opener it has been. </div></BLOCKQUOTE>

Where r u stugumby??

Flying_Nutcase
07-13-2006, 05:10 AM
<BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-title">quote:</div><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-content">Originally posted by Ares_336sqn:
Look, this is not the right place for this. Even 18 years old kids will jump out and give you advice. people here argue with aeroengineers and real pilots about flight models and stuff, do you think they would not have the nerve to suggest a diagnosis and a treatment to your problem?
So, if you want help, go to a professional. nothing wrong with it and, no, it does not mean you are loosing your grip! It only takes a little courage.
you know, sometimes you see a person walking a rocky narrow path and when you show him the large avenue right next to him, he refuses to take that and keeps bleeding his knees. Why? because that rocky path is the only road he knows. </div></BLOCKQUOTE>

But by coming here he got some good advice, including yours. There's a reason why there's a "u" and "i" in community. Okay, no there isn't, but it's a nice coincidence. http://forums.ubi.com/images/smilies/16x16_smiley-happy.gif

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@Slipball: Will PM shortly.

-HH-Quazi
07-13-2006, 05:24 AM
<BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-title">quote:</div><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-content">Originally posted by Ares_336sqn:
Look, this is not the right place for this. Even 18 years old kids will jump out and give you advice. people here argue with aeroengineers and real pilots about flight models and stuff, do you think they would not have the nerve to suggest a diagnosis and a treatment to your problem?
So, if you want help, go to a professional. nothing wrong with it and, no, it does not mean you are loosing your grip! It only takes a little courage.
you know, sometimes you see a person walking a rocky narrow path and when you show him the large avenue right next to him, he refuses to take that and keeps bleeding his knees. Why? because that rocky path is the only road he knows. </div></BLOCKQUOTE>

Who better to advise but friends that have gone through it. Plus, I am sure anyone can distinguish betwwen a sincere, sense making post, and the ramblings of an eighteen yr. old kid.

lowfighter
07-13-2006, 06:07 AM
Have you noticed: this community sometimes falls prey to rather unpleasant fights over minor issues ; however, when some member has a real-life problem, then the same community unites to encourage , to give council?
Cheers to Stugumby, the famous "supreme commander 139th independent airborne amphibious underwater mess kit repair squadron (digital)"
Cheers m8!
Cheers to all too http://forums.ubi.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_smile.gif

hotspace
07-13-2006, 06:26 AM
M8, can I give you a word of advice? I've been married for 14 year's and this january gone my wife left me (despite what I've been saying on other forums) http://forums.ubi.com/images/smilies/16x16_smiley-sad.gif No real reason was given for her leaving me, but we had a row and that was it, she left me. I couldn't believe that this had happened to me as I believe that I did no wrong for her to make this decision. Any way, so I don't hijack your thread m8 (not my intention http://forums.ubi.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_smile.gif), when she left I drink/smoked way too much. Night became day and often I would still be on the Net the following morning etc.......I could only sleep with the help of drink. About a month I took a long hard look at myself in the mirror and thought, 'They're must be more to life then this?'

I still get very down and do the most odd things at times, but when I wake up I alway's try and make sure that I've got at least some kinda smile on my face and that I try and make my day as full as I possible can. I see friends here on the Net or in the real world, silly things like going for a walk so I can clear my head.

You're not losing your grip and yes this is normal m8 http://forums.ubi.com/images/smilies/16x16_smiley-wink.gif Just hold your head up high and think what you can give to this world. Find something that you like doing and maybe do it in overload for awhile until you feel better http://forums.ubi.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_smile.gif Maybe try something like I've done above as is it worth it in the end m8.

han freak solo
07-13-2006, 07:07 AM
<BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-title">quote:</div><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-content">Originally posted by stugumby:
and welcome to the work force at 45 as a semi crippled gimp from army with no degree... what an eye opener it has been. </div></BLOCKQUOTE>

You recently got out? What did you do in the Army? Maybe we can give you some ideas what the civilian world can provide.

I've had life crises that would qualify as mid-life to some. I just didn't have them in my 40's. (Currently 41). My first life crisis was at 28 and the second was at 37. I got through them both whether I wanted to or not. Life is good for me now. Your's will be, too. http://forums.ubi.com/images/smilies/16x16_smiley-wink.gif

VW-IceFire
07-13-2006, 08:01 AM
Well thats encouraging...a crisis at any age really. But no...it really is encouraging. I guess you have to get through them sometime.

Some good advice in this thread I think. Some of us younger, some of us older, all part of the community. Thats how its done.

LEBillfish
07-13-2006, 08:43 AM
<span class="ev_code_PINK">How nice.....fills my heart with joy.....you guys need to group hug......I'll watch and get pictures http://forums.ubi.com/images/smilies/inlove.gif</span>
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Dtools4fools
07-13-2006, 09:11 AM
life is a cycle of ups and downs.
how could one enjoy and know the ups if it wasn't for the downs?
recognising being down is first crucuail thing. Only if you know that there something wrong you can start working on it. emphasis on "you", as you are the only one who can do. once you are able to look at youself into the mirror and think as hotSpace describes above, then you are ready to face the music again and fight for your life, for your dreams. if you loose all your dreams, if they are all gone, well, so are you then. never loose your dreams!

****

VW-IceFire
07-13-2006, 09:39 AM
<BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-title">quote:</div><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-content">Originally posted by LEBillfish:
<span class="ev_code_PINK">How nice.....fills my heart with joy.....you guys need to group hug......I'll watch and get pictures http://forums.ubi.com/images/smilies/inlove.gif</span>
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VVaFFenPanZZeR
07-13-2006, 10:21 AM
<BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-title">quote:</div><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-content">Originally posted by VW-IceFire:
<BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-title">quote:</div><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-content">Originally posted by LEBillfish:
<span class="ev_code_PINK">How nice.....fills my heart with joy.....you guys need to group hug......I'll watch and get pictures http://forums.ubi.com/images/smilies/inlove.gif</span>
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She can act like that cuz she's got what we wanna rub on, and to have tug us...............LOL

horseback
07-13-2006, 11:58 AM
Okay, stugumby, I'm 53, and I've been there, and done that. I ended a miserable marriage, shaved my head to avoid the dreaded comb-over, and found work that I find rewarding with people I enjoy being with.

I just woke up one day an said to myself "What the hell have I been doing all this for?" After a bout of depression over the fact that my life was not going the way I thought it was supposed to, I realized that I wasn't dead yet, and I could still do something about what bothered me the most-my job and my hairline (walking out on the self-centered whining b***h my once devoted little bride had become was just a bonus) and got on with my life.

My progress was aided and abetted by my parents' encouragement, but even if they were gone, I still know what they'd be telling me: "Life isn't perfect, but it can still be good, even if it isn't what you expected or hoped for. Now get up off your arse and do something!"

You are not dead yet. You are not useless as long as you can find a way to make a positive contribution to someone or something (and whether it generates a positive cash flow is irrelevent). You have friends and family who love you, and you have some shiny new multi-tools. Enjoy them!

cheers

horseback

PS-by the way Platypus (or any other financially challenged active modellers out there), the back of my garage is a meter deep and 2.5m high in boxes of unbuilt model kits. 1/48, 1/72 scale, aircraft & some 1/35 scale armor. I haven't touched 'em in 4 years, so there are few recent releases in there, but I have many of the classics. You can PM me with a wish list, and I can probably unload a few on you for the cost of shipping.

LEBillfish
07-13-2006, 01:42 PM
I'd agree with what Horseback says if you're sure you're unhappy with your situation....Yet it never ceases to amaze me at how many men and women circular file their lives to date during this mood swing/reality check.......

That's the trouble though and where it really becomes a crisis.......As panicing that you missed out or better grab it now before it's lost forever often makes you forget the value of what you have worked for to date. Sure, have some fun, blow off some steam, get wild....Yet do it in a way that doesn't blow everything you've built over the past 40-50 years.....

Then take some quiet time, reflect, come to a conclusion and act......Most will find they're right where they want to be the wild hair falling out. Those that aren't, then change it....As often you'll find if with another, they may even be ready for a change too http://forums.ubi.com/images/smilies/16x16_smiley-wink.gif

It's not the end of days though feels it......It's just the beginning of living your life how you always wanted.

triad773
07-13-2006, 01:54 PM
What a great thread; and unexpected too. Some great advice here. It sometimes amazes me how many mature people enjoy flying around in a simulator, on a computer- when our environments (or at least mine anyway,) often want to pull us off in different less interesting directions.

~S~

lowfighter
07-13-2006, 02:02 PM
Well, why not: cheers to all of you who are in trouble... from a brother in arms http://forums.ubi.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_smile.gif

super71957
07-13-2006, 02:42 PM
Well I"m 50 and I always thougt a guys midlife crisis was about finding a young honey and buying a sportscar..Well I got the sportscar,(Datsun 260Z). Restoring it to perfect condition now , but not doing so good with the honey hunting. Besides I don"t think my wife would like her.LOL Anyway,Sometimes growing older is easy ,other times not so.Oh well have to hang in there. :.)


Craig

Enthor1
07-13-2006, 09:04 PM
I was going to have a midlife crisis but after reading this thread, have decided against it.

Actually, I may have one someday but I am only 61 so it is a bit too soon.

OK, seriously sturmgumby, get a grip and get a glassed in display case if you intend to keep up your new hobby, those things will get very dusty in a short period of time.

stugumby
07-14-2006, 05:32 AM
Thanks one and all for your replies, my first course of action will be to sell off all excess multitools as what I can get for them and use that as down payment on new computer. So if you need a swiss knife at half price drop me a pm!


Oh and just what does a rub and tug cost???

han freak solo
07-14-2006, 06:49 AM
<BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-title">quote:</div><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-content">Originally posted by stugumby:
Oh and just what does a rub and tug cost??? </div></BLOCKQUOTE>

Well, its free if you are a do-it-yourself kind of guy. http://forums.ubi.com/images/smilies/halo.gif

danjama
07-14-2006, 12:07 PM
<BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-title">quote:</div><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-content">Originally posted by VW-IceFire:
Just be thankful they hadn't invented the quarterlife crisis at your ages! My generation is currently enduring the quarterlife crisis...out of school...out of work...wanting to start things up but totally incapable of doing so and wanting to purchase all of the things that the midlife crisis people want but without any money in their name.

Midlife crisis sounds like a walk in the park in comparison. </div></BLOCKQUOTE>

you are so ****ing right man

danjama
07-14-2006, 12:10 PM
<BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-title">quote:</div><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-content">Originally posted by stugumby:
http://forums.ubi.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_frown.gif

well a rub and tug, is that the same as steam and cream at the local house of happy endings? That sounds appealing but consequences could be nasty indeed, and knowing my luck it would be the time of the yearly raid. A bit hard to explain to significant other...


But back to whats bugging me, I used to be an avid model buuilder and did one of those compromises to save marriage, models had to go when moving to smaller house etc, no basement didnt compute in ming's brain housing group, went from 2400 sq feet to 1450.. all fit in boxes in garage but had to compromise. since then no escape except work and game.

last 3 years have been the hardest of my 45 yrs. both parents died 3 years apart and welcome to the work force at 45 as a semi crippled gimp from army with no degree... what an eye opener it has been. </div></BLOCKQUOTE>

i have a feeling my hardest three years will be the three i just lived, if it got any worse in the future i would give up, no doubt

danjama
07-14-2006, 12:11 PM
<BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-title">quote:</div><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-content">Originally posted by Ares_336sqn:
you know, sometimes you see a person walking a rocky narrow path and when you show him the large avenue right next to him, he refuses to take that and keeps bleeding his knees. Why? because that rocky path is the only road he knows. </div></BLOCKQUOTE>

God damn son, that is signature material

danjama
07-14-2006, 12:17 PM
Here is one idea of what to do to chillax http://forums.ubi.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_smile.gif

works for me, the hard part is finding time to do it

http://forums.ubi.com/eve/forums/a/tpc/f/23110283/m/6831023164

M2morris
07-14-2006, 10:39 PM
Doesn't sound like you are too-screwed up. The swiss knives may be a sign that you need to build something. I am 43 and have been absent from this forum quite a bit latley because I have gotten into RC planes. It has become an adiction for me.
I have a Piper cub, and I fly it when ever I can. Its a 76 inch wing span, piston engine powered yellow cub and I have mastered the landings,but when I do a landing I think of this sim every time and how it relates.
Well, thats what happened to me, I mean, life could be worse, so dont sweat it. You wanna buy tools, then buy tools. I have a garage full of them myself.

LEBillfish
07-14-2006, 11:48 PM
bleh.....I went skydiving, have my bike, husband has sports cars galore, traveled, young hotties here 24/7......Only one thing soothes it........

A new Tattoo or piercing!...........Might I suggest a bone through the nose, very retro! http://forums.ubi.com/images/smilies/16x16_smiley-wink.gif

MEGILE
07-15-2006, 03:50 PM
A smile a day keeps the men in white coats away.

Humour is soothing for the soul

Targ
07-15-2006, 04:04 PM
This should cheer you up http://forums.ubi.com/images/smilies/16x16_smiley-very-happy.gif

http://www.albinoblacksheep.com/flash/badgerphone.php

RedDeth
07-15-2006, 04:45 PM
FIRST... he is not facing mid life crisis.

hes buying swiss army knives folks ....

most likely he is now facing his own mortality. That happens in about 25% of all men when a strong parental figure dies.it is much more prevalent in men than in WOMEN. and it quite often drags you down into a deep depression. this is not something to take lightly. he should talk to a professional.it also can happen months after the death. and has varying degrees 0f severity whereas most men that have it just dont realize it at all.

It can also happen to men when they are young...say 20 even.This is a separate issue from mid life crisis. please re read his post and you will see the major clue as to his distress.

if he had a mid life crisis right now he wouldnt be buying 50 dollar knives. he would be hocking himself in debt for a new motorcycle... or trying to pick up babes....or looking at buying a house or sports car he really cant afford.

this forum is not the right place for his issues as others have stated. but he is not going through mid life crisis.

he is now starting to count the days he has left...and that frightens a lot of people.

SeaFireLIV
07-15-2006, 07:32 PM
Strange, isn`t it? How Creation bears the seeds of its own destruction.

Good thing I`m only 19. http://forums.ubi.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_biggrin.gif http://forums.ubi.com/images/smilies/16x16_smiley-tongue.gif

Flying_Nutcase
07-15-2006, 08:32 PM
<BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-title">quote:</div><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-content">Originally posted by Targ:
This should cheer you up http://forums.ubi.com/images/smilies/16x16_smiley-very-happy.gif

http://www.albinoblacksheep.com/flash/badgerphone.php </div></BLOCKQUOTE>

Agreed. That'll bring a smile to anyone's face.

PLANEMAD
07-16-2006, 09:05 AM
yes buy some model kits the BIG 1/24 ones [the biger the better] then you can take them to model shows it will take your mind off things i did them years ago it helps you chill out.

heywooood
07-16-2006, 10:11 AM
life is short - don't complain, don't explain.

sometimes you look in the mirror and ask the face that is looking back at you..."Well?"

sometimes you don't like what you hear...your life isn't what you thought it would be.

Expectations never match reality...thats why it is best not to have any.

Do your best to appreciate what you have in hand...then if it still doesn't sit well, you make an adjustment. You are your own master, yes?
....now go out and get yourself a rub and a tug.

Ares_336sqn
07-16-2006, 04:46 PM
<BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-title">quote:</div><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-content">Originally posted by RedDeth:
FIRST... he is not facing mid life crisis.

hes buying swiss army knives folks ....

most likely he is now facing his own mortality. That happens in about 25% of all men when a strong parental figure dies.it is much more prevalent in men than in WOMEN. and it quite often drags you down into a deep depression. this is not something to take lightly. he should talk to a professional.it also can happen months after the death. and has varying degrees 0f severity whereas most men that have it just dont realize it at all.

It can also happen to men when they are young...say 20 even.This is a separate issue from mid life crisis. please re read his post and you will see the major clue as to his distress.

if he had a mid life crisis right now he wouldnt be buying 50 dollar knives. he would be hocking himself in debt for a new motorcycle... or trying to pick up babes....or looking at buying a house or sports car he really cant afford.

this forum is not the right place for his issues as others have stated. but he is not going through mid life crisis.

he is now starting to count the days he has left...and that frightens a lot of people. </div></BLOCKQUOTE>

Exactly. the thing about depression is that people do not realise they have it and people around them do not understand it either. They just try to cheer them up... they just don't get what depression is.
Do not play doctor if you are not. By telling someone he is "fine" you may keep him away from much needed therapy if he is not "fine". Good intensions are dangerous here. After all, the road to hell is covered with good intensions.
Some people may suffer for years or decades before it is diagnosed.
If this is the case or not, only a professional can say. And either way, he will get serious help.

Te_Vigo
07-17-2006, 07:11 PM
Mid - Life Crisis?.....it's overated, the Damage Profile doesn't match and the FM is a bit wonky..........

Seiously Mid-Life Crisis really is just...Do I go for the 20yr old nubile or the 42yr old honey?
Or perhaps just settle for the 30 something babe?

Saburo_0
07-28-2006, 12:14 AM
Gotta go with RedDeth here.

Depresion. Death, mortality. the most diffiicult issues that the human race faces. Add on a very tough career change... Airplane game s are no joy, these are serious issues.
stugumby,

See a "pro" take what they have have to offer, no real loss right?

i dont know what to say, but if I'd lost two of the most important folks in my life, been faced with a new world where people didnt know what to make of the sacrifices and work I'd done for the past 20 or so years. I'd be more than a wee bit upset and confused.
Fact is you aren't alone, dont know what to say to prove that , but it seems so obvious i dont need to. Thing is I read a good book called "Lincoln's Melancholy" 'bout Abraham Lincoln, back in his day taey thought leeches might help. now they say get a hobby.. well ya have one, but can't enjoy it because you are facing every most difficult question philosophers have faced through OUR history. Ok, mate.. if ya beat it all alone you'll likely be the next Jesus, 'cept doin it alone is like entering a dogfight without a wingman...dumb eh, ?

NAFP_supah
07-28-2006, 12:42 AM
Do like I did, get a 19 year old girlfriend! Then again, I am only 27, might be a bit wierd if your 40+