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joseph92371
08-29-2005, 12:45 PM
This is way off topic but I thought I would share. I spent alot of this weekend flying and today I looked back at how much time I didn't play with my boys! They are 7 and 5 and I was sitting here thinking- they are only young once. I met an older guy recently and I asked him if he could go back what is one thing he would do differently. He responded, "I would have spent more time with my kids". It is gone like the wind before you know it. Go fly with those little guys and gals. The simming can come after the moon starts to rise. http://forums.ubi.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_smile.gifI know this is way off topic but it amazes me how we can get so pulled away from the things that matter the most!!!

Yours,
Todd

Dumbo_AK32nd
08-29-2005, 01:00 PM
Well said, Joseph...well said!

I have three kids...two daughters and one son. My oldest goes off to college in another year...I remember watching her march off to her first day of Kindergarten like it was yesterday.

It's just like the song says: I don't remember growing older...when did they?

JG7_Rall
08-29-2005, 03:28 PM
*waits for boosher to show up (can't miss him) and start giving marital and child raising advice to other adults on the boards even tho he himself is a teenager*

9th_Spitin
08-29-2005, 04:00 PM
This is a great post and a great reminder of the important things in life. I am 40 with a 7,5 and 3 yr old and I will not play until they are in bed and momma has givin me the go ahead that she is going to bed to sleep http://forums.ubi.com/images/smilies/16x16_smiley-wink.gif . I can not believe the time some put into this sim, not that it's bad, but every minute that passes is gone forever. I enjoy the friendships that I have built over the years with my squad and everyone else, but family will always come 1st.

S~

AOD_DieHard_X
08-29-2005, 04:06 PM
Better yet, let the kids come play too!

The most fun me and my son ever had was when we set up a Battlefield server and ventrilo (yeah, I guess not everyone has 3 comps to goof with) and just went at it! Had a blast!

Kuna15
08-29-2005, 04:32 PM
Originally posted by joseph92371:
This is way off topic but I thought I would share. I spent alot of this weekend flying and today I looked back at how much time I didn't play with my boys! They are 7 and 5 and I was sitting here thinking- they are only young once. I met an older guy recently and I asked him if he could go back what is one thing he would do differently. He responded, "I would have spent more time with my kids". It is gone like the wind before you know it. Go fly with those little guys and gals. The simming can come after the moon starts to rise. http://forums.ubi.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_smile.gifI know this is way off topic but it amazes me how we can get so pulled away from the things that matter the most!!!

Yours,
Todd

http://forums.ubi.com/images/smilies/351.gif . Totally.

johann63
08-29-2005, 08:56 PM
good point

One of the reasons I dont fly this game as much anymore. Also I admit I spend more time doing things with the wife, and fly fishing/tying

jarink
08-29-2005, 09:30 PM
I have boys 10 and 4, plus a 3 year old girl.
The boys play with me when possible and it's been a bonding tool of sorts. The older one likes Call of Duty better, so he usually plays that during 'computer time', but the little one either sits on my lap or an a little stool next to me when I'm actually playing. My girl likes Barbies better than the computer. Oh, well, can't win 'em all.

When we went to an airshow recently, I was amazed when my younger son started pointing out the different parts of the planes (propellers,tails, flaps, landing gear, etc.). Then he really blew me away when, while sitting in the cockpit of a UH-60, he told me how the stick worked! "Push makes you go down, pull makes you go up, this and this (left and right) makes you spin around, Daddy!"

Now I just need to find a joystick that's small enough for his hands!

9th_Spitin
08-29-2005, 09:36 PM
Originally posted by johann63:
good point

One of the reasons I dont fly this game as much anymore. Also I admit I spend more time doing things with the wife, and fly fishing/tying

I hear that. I go out to a river once a week and throw some bugs out to see what I can catch. I am going again Wed afternoon.

Waldo.Pepper
08-29-2005, 10:23 PM
I don't have any kids, so I'm gonna play with my wife instead.

Tater-SW-
08-29-2005, 10:42 PM
That's how it starts. <G>

tater

han freak solo
08-29-2005, 10:49 PM
Originally posted by AOD_DieHard_X:
Better yet, let the kids come play too!


Exactly, I have a QMB mission set aside for the little ones. They also like the ol' Airfix dogfighter game. We've spent a lot of time indoors this summer.

I'm ready for the fall, so being outdoors is less miserable. We only have two seasons here in Texas. Summer and Falwintaspring.

Art-J
08-30-2005, 12:21 AM
Too young to have kids (although one can find this statement questionable http://forums.ubi.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_biggrin.gif), but I like the fact, that finally we have a thread which doesn't turn into "xxx-plane/gun/climbrate-over/undermodelled" whinefest. ~S~! to all daddys over here.

Cheers

Art

Oilburner_TAW
08-30-2005, 04:52 AM
Originally posted by han freak solo:
I'm ready for the fall, so being outdoors is less miserable. We only have two seasons here in Texas. Summer and Falwintaspring.

So true!

Spinnetti
08-30-2005, 05:22 AM
I don't fly that much anymore, but my 18 month old discovered planes without me.. I don't know how, but she id's anything that looks remotely like a plane as one calling them 'appys'. Prior to this, she had never seen me play. No she jumps up and down saying 'Appy! Appy!" until I go fly my RC planes (which she had never seen until recently either). She sits in the grass pointing and saying Appy, then wants to sit with me on the computer while I play PF! I think I have a little pilot on my hands.. (my 5 year old isn't interested)

JG301_nils
08-30-2005, 05:41 AM
Originally posted by Art-J:
I like the fact, that finally we have a thread which doesn't turn into "xxx-plane/gun/climbrate-over/undermodelled" whinefest.
I wouldn't bet on it Art-J, hehe. We can turn the most OT tread into a flaming battle on these subjects http://forums.ubi.com/images/smilies/16x16_smiley-happy.gif

Got two kids myself, but they're now 20 so my daughter's moved out and my son has outgrown me, hehe. He left play wars for the real Navy .....

TgD Thunderbolt56
08-30-2005, 06:30 AM
This post is more relevant, I'm sure, than most would want to admit. All joking aside, many of you haven't seen nearly as much of me lately as you used to for various reasons. While some of it is seasonal (i.e. there are times i fly more than others), I used to fly almost exclusively after my Five kids went to bed. My wife and I have been spending quite a bit of time together lately and it's been a fun, rewarding time of rediscovery for us. 2 of my kids went off to college this past summer, 2 others are in high school and the little guy is now 8...and I'm 41.

This is a hobby for me and one that has given (and will contiunue to give) considerable enjoyment, but while I've built strong friendships over the years both here and other places, there is nothing more important to me than my family. I already feel like I lost a good bit of time with my kids because of prioritizing work and other things ahead of them...even if unintentionally. I've had a couple of them flying with me a few times and they've had fun.

I guess it really doesn't matter what you do with your family, just realize it's never too late.

TB

wicklow
08-30-2005, 07:01 AM
Wish i had, my little girl is off to uni in 24days and all i have done is work if i had my time again, well i cant its gone and its the one regret i have in life, enjoy your kids be there for them, or you end up beating yourself up when they fly away.

stubby
08-30-2005, 07:57 AM
I have three kids so I know what you mean. Typically, I give up sleep to sustain my need to fly. So, I do the dad thing during normal, mortal hours and try to put the kids down by 9pm. By 10pm w/ everyone asleep, I can go fly and I'm not disin' the kids or wife. Sure, I've taken like 10 years off my life due to sleep deprivation but I get to fly!

Tgd_Voxman
08-30-2005, 09:50 AM
Well put Tbolt!

I'm in the same boat. My 12 yr. old just started Jr. High and my youngest, 9 yr.old is getting ready for Fourth grade. Summer came and went, but I've tried to spend quality time with them. That's why I'm flying later in the evening or sometimes not at all, and that's OK.

Tallyho1961
08-30-2005, 10:55 AM
Right on.

I didn't fly at all through July and August due to kids on vacation and it was nice to take a break. I've just started again and although I'm a little rusty - the whole thing feels fresh and new - which is nice.

Platypus_1.JaVA
08-30-2005, 10:58 AM
Well, I would like to play with my kids but, I need to find a nice girl first to make babies with actually.

TacticalYak3
08-30-2005, 11:34 AM
http://forums.ubi.com/images/smilies/25.gif fatherhood - the world certainly needs more fathers.

And of course one can game too much. Setting limits for your children is a lot easier when you set them for yourself first.

While certainly guilty of gaming too much at times, Dad's computer time starts at around 10:00 p.m. to 11-12:00 midnight. Kids' have the family machine during the day for a set period of time each. Makes life a whole lot easier for all concerned.

Tact - "father of 13 & 11 year old children" - S!

joseph92371
08-30-2005, 11:46 AM
You guys are awesome!

Todd

huggy87
08-30-2005, 11:59 AM
Amen. I just sent my 3 year old to her first day of preschool this morning.

Rebel_Yell_21
08-30-2005, 12:20 PM
Originally posted by 9th_Spitin:
This is a great post and a great reminder of the important things in life. I am 40 with a 7,5 and 3 yr old and I will not play until they are in bed and momma has givin me the go ahead that she is going to bed to sleep http://forums.ubi.com/images/smilies/16x16_smiley-wink.gif . I can not believe the time some put into this sim, not that it's bad, but every minute that passes is gone forever. I enjoy the friendships that I have built over the years with my squad and everyone else, but family will always come 1st.

S~

Almost exactly me and my situation, but I'm 42 and have two, 7 and 22 months.

telsono
08-30-2005, 12:54 PM
My play time is only 4 to 8 hours a week. Which is usually also the time I use to make dinner (I get home before my wife). Both my sons (17 and 13) play sports which take up alot of the weekends. My birthday is coming up and I know I will spend it selling raffle tickets at my eldest's football (American) game. The daddy taxi is in full motion.

Flakenstien
08-30-2005, 05:37 PM
Bah! Kids are over modeled!

shinden1974
08-30-2005, 05:47 PM
I have one, a 2 year old, and we are working on another.

I basically have a choice: 8 hours of sleep or Il2 late at night. so I sim basically 2-3 times a week. I actually spend more time here on certain days.

Having a child changes everything, it loosens you up a little bit, and at the same time your more critical of everything around you. I used to be into GTA...their all in the trash now.

It's crazy how happy kids make you...I used to be a pretty cynical, jaded guy, my son is a rolling ball of happiness and optimism, EVERYTHING makes him smile, and it's infectious.

blakduk
08-30-2005, 06:42 PM
I have an 18month old and a 3year old. My wife commented the other day on how discilined i was spending time with the kids and only playing my games when they were in bed- i took the comment gracefully and didnt point out that i found it very hard to shoot the enemy down when a little arm was grabbing me trying to climb onto my lap!
I bet Hartmann didnt have his concentration ruined by a toilet training toddler screaming 'potty now Daddy!' http://forums.ubi.com/images/smilies/16x16_smiley-very-happy.gif

ashley2005
08-30-2005, 07:06 PM
i would play with the kids but i am one lol ... and i always play with my self anyway http://forums.ubi.com/images/smilies/10.gif

StG77_Stuka
08-30-2005, 07:15 PM
I remember when I was single and listening to co-workers tell me how wonderful marriage and children were. My reply was usually yeah, yeah, yeah! I've been married 11 years with a daughter of 9 years & a son who recently turned 6 yrs. old. They're the greatest thing that ever happened to me or ever will and the time goes by soo fast! We're fortunate to live next to a "wild & scenic River" which we drift-boat down and camp along every chance we get. I often wish there was more time to fly on-line, but never regret the time spent with family. The best thread in a long time joseph, thnx!

huggy87
08-30-2005, 08:52 PM
Originally posted by blakduk:
I have an 18month old and a 3year old. My wife commented the other day on how discilined i was spending time with the kids and only playing my games when they were in bed- i took the comment gracefully and didnt point out that i found it very hard to shoot the enemy down when a little arm was grabbing me trying to climb onto my lap!
I bet Hartmann didnt have his concentration ruined by a toilet training toddler screaming 'potty now Daddy!' http://forums.ubi.com/images/smilies/16x16_smiley-very-happy.gif


Lol. My three year old is always climbing in my lap and saying "my turn, my turn". She always ends up just firing the guns and stalling into the water, but she has fun. The sad thing was yesterday, when I was leaving for work (she knows daddy flies at work), she told me not to crash into the water. She probably thinks I have a restart button.

blakduk
08-30-2005, 10:01 PM
Huggy- it sound like your kid is the same as mine, she loves to have a go but the lack of restraint in using the equipment is a bit scary.
Adding to my last post mentioning 'Hartmann never had to...', i bet he also never had a concerned little girl come up to him after being shot down, look at him very concernedly straight in the eyes and say 'Do you need a hug?' http://forums.ubi.com/images/smilies/16x16_smiley-very-happy.gif

StG77_Stuka
08-31-2005, 07:15 PM
Originally posted by ashley2005:
i would play with the kids but i am one lol ... and i always play with my self anyway http://forums.ubi.com/images/smilies/10.gif

You'll go blind ashley!!!

TgD Thunderbolt56
09-01-2005, 07:01 AM
Originally posted by StG77_Stuka:

You'll go blind ashley!!!


If Ashley is a girl, blindness isn't the potential problem... http://forums.ubi.com/images/smilies/16x16_smiley-wink.gif http://forums.ubi.com/images/smilies/16x16_smiley-wink.gif

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99th Obsidian
09-01-2005, 08:09 AM
My boys are 7 and 11 (7/11 hmmm, last year i'll be able to quickly remember their ages http://forums.ubi.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_rolleyes.gif). They have 8:30PM bedtimes so I normally fly/game after they're sleep. Occasionally on a weekend my youngest will watch me fly when I get on for a QMB offline. We go to the Air and Space museum near Dulles Airport occasionally and when we return from the museum, they enjoy watching as I fly some of the planes they saw with AEP+PF. I think I'm doing a pretty good job spending time/playing with them. I passed on a higher paying job that would have lengthened my commute over an hour and kept me from their mid-day school programs. Hard to believe my oldest is in Middle School already. Time flies.

xTHRUDx
09-01-2005, 02:00 PM
we make time for the things that are important to us. so think about that.

huggy87
09-01-2005, 07:01 PM
Originally posted by blakduk:
Huggy- it sound like your kid is the same as mine, she loves to have a go but the lack of restraint in using the equipment is a bit scary.
Adding to my last post mentioning 'Hartmann never had to...', i bet he also never had a concerned little girl come up to him after being shot down, look at him very concernedly straight in the eyes and say 'Do you need a hug?' http://forums.ubi.com/images/smilies/16x16_smiley-very-happy.gif

Lol. He might not have done as well, but he sure would have felt better at the end of the day.

JG51Beolke
09-02-2005, 07:24 AM
Your are soooo right Joseph. Well said!!! I found myself in the same situation. I was at the pc one day simming, then looked over my shoulder and noticed my son watching me fly. I just shut the computer off, went and hugged my son, and said "Lets go Play". Till this day, the pc stays off till he goes to bed. They grow up so fast so don't waist a single precious moment with your kids. And what's funny is, someday we'll be looking over their shoulders watching them simming just like my dad did when I was 15....