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NegativeGee
11-30-2004, 08:10 AM
Its not my day today guys http://forums.ubi.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_frown.gif

I just had to have my cat, Ginger, put down after finding out it had a nasty tumour. I don't think he suffered much but it wasn't an easy choice to make, its the first time I've lost a pet like a cat or had to make such a decision.

I've had him for 16 years so Ginger has had a long life and he's always been in good health, had lots of fun and was getting up to lots of mischief, but its not going to be quite the same for a while without him around.

My wife and I are going to plant a tree for him tonight in our garden.

Is it just me or is losing a cat (or other animal) always so hard?

Sigh http://forums.ubi.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_frown.gif

Extreme_One
11-30-2004, 08:14 AM
I know exactly how you feel.

A pet is not like a part of the family - they are a part of the family.

I'm sorry to hear of your loss.

gombal40
11-30-2004, 08:59 AM
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i know i regret to say the feeling

Ankanor
11-30-2004, 09:03 AM
It is hard. Always. I am sorry for your loss. http://forums.ubi.com/images/smilies/16x16_smiley-sad.gif I had a dog once, a French Bolonese "Sunny", he was some 7 months old when he went ill from some sort of epilepsy, he recovered but just a couple of months later a police car(the two b@stards were drunk, it was confirmed http://forums.ubi.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_mad.gif) knocked him down. I was third grade at that time... God, it was terrible. I cried for days...
I had a dog and a cat later. The dog was a poodle, the cat, he must have been just a month old at that time, we found him one day in our garage, frozen to death and ill, burns on the nose and paws(little children can be real sadists). Anyway, they were quite a company, would sleep together and all that stuff, the cat just just never returned from his walk one day. It must have been one of the German Shepherds in the hood... Then the dog disappeared one day...

|Exciter|
11-30-2004, 10:08 AM
<BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><font size="-1">quote:</font><HR>Is it just me or is losing a cat (or other animal) always so hard?
Sigh http://forums.ubi.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_frown.gif <HR></BLOCKQUOTE>

I know what you mean i have 4 of them http://forums.ubi.com/images/smilies/cry.gif They are like your children. I lost one of my favorites last year to a speeding car 2 days before thanxgiving, and had to put her down as well, so you can imagine how i felt this year at thanxgiving. On the upside, i had found another stray kitten 3 weeks ago (I cant stand to see any stray animal, that's just me! http://forums.ubi.com/images/smilies/heart.gif)
as i was driving down the road and almost hit it with the car! Quickly pulled over snatched her up and took it to the vet, got her cleaned up, w\ booster shots etc. Find out she has feline luekemia http://forums.ubi.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_rolleyes.gif But she is still too young that her immune system hasn't fully developed yet to combat it. There is only a 30% chance of her doing that http://forums.ubi.com/images/smilies/cry.gif Anyways the plus side of this is that my current older cats are fairly immune now that they are older and have their shot's. So i can keep her, but for how long i dont know.http://forums.ubi.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_rolleyes.gif But i feel your pain about your loss. http://forums.ubi.com/images/smilies/16x16_smiley-sad.gif

Hang in there!

Chuck_Older
11-30-2004, 10:15 AM
16 years? D@mn that was a long lived cat

I had the same dog from when I was 11 to 28. I couldn't recall ever not having the dog around when she died. It's tough.

Get rid of all the old cat's stuff, and get a kitten.

Aero_Shodanjo
11-30-2004, 10:28 AM
See my avatar? My first cat look almost exactly like that except he was a little older. I was 7 that time and every morning he jumped on my chest while im still sleeping to wake me up - something that my parents found it hard to do by themself http://forums.ubi.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_razz.gif.

Unfortunately a year later he got ill then left my house. We were looking for him for days but he's nowhere to be found http://forums.ubi.com/images/smilies/cry.gif

Kootenai
11-30-2004, 10:31 AM
Losing an animal is hard. I know your pain, and so apparently did Rudyard Kipling. He was writing about dogs but I think it applies to all human-animal relationships.

"The Power of the Dog"

THERE is sorrow enough in the natural way
From men and women to fill our day;
And when we are certain of sorrow in store,
Why do we always arrange for more?
Brothers and Sisters, I bid you beware
Of giving your heart to a dog to tear.

Buy a pup and your money will buy
Love unflinching that cannot lie€"
Perfect passion and worship fed
By a kick in the ribs or a pat on the head.
Nevertheless it is hardly fair
To risk your heart for a dog to tear.

When the fourteen years which Nature permits
Are closing in asthma, or tumour, or fits,
And the vet€s unspoken prescription runs
To lethal chambers or loaded guns,
Then you will find€"it€s your own affair€"
But . . . you€ve given your heart to a dog to tear.

When the body that lived at your single will,
With its whimper of welcome, is stilled (how still!).
When the spirit that answered your every mood
Is gone€"wherever it goes€"for good,
You will discover how much you care,
And will give your heart to a dog to tear.

We€ve sorrow enough in the natural way,
When it comes to burying Christian clay.
Our loves are not given, but only lent,
At compound interest of cent per cent.
Though it is not always the case, I believe,
That the longer we€ve kept €em, the more do we grieve.
For, when debts are payable, right or wrong,
A short-time loan is as bad as a long€"
So why in€"Heaven (before we are there)
Should we give our hearts to a dog to tear?

p-39driver
11-30-2004, 10:40 AM
Sorry to hear about the loss of your cat.
Pets are a part of the family,and part of the person.

My cat,Butz,died in '98.I cried for days...For 8 years that cat and I were tight buddies.

Hang in there,I feel for ya..

J_Weaver
11-30-2004, 11:29 AM
Sorry to hear about that man. I know animals become part of the family.

Since your feeling blue hears a vain attempt to make you laugh. When I saw the title I though this was another post about the Hellcat. http://forums.ubi.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_wink.gif

|Exciter|
11-30-2004, 11:58 AM
have somebody make up a skin for one of your favorite birds with the cat's name "Ginger" and a small likeness of it's picture for the nos-eart. http://forums.ubi.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_cool.gif http://forums.ubi.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_wink.gif http://forums.ubi.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_biggrin.gif

73GIAP_Milan
11-30-2004, 12:00 PM
http://forums.ubi.com/images/smilies/16x16_smiley-sad.gif i feel sorry for you and your cat, it's really hard to lose a pet as it is part of your life, through bad and good times...

1 thing might cheer you up a bit, although not much; be very glad your cat did not suffer...
the choice must have been hard to make, but in the end it might have been the best option for the both of you, and i can speak of experience about it.
Me and my family have had pets for years, and one (a dog) was seriously ill, and that was really awful to live with..

Another one, a cat, just walked off to find a spot on it's own, as it was sick, old (17 yrs) and tired of living. I missed it a whole lot of course, but i became content with the idea that it was just the best thing to do...

Keep the memories alive ^^

Salute!

falling-bird
11-30-2004, 12:37 PM
I know how you feel and it's a tough one. It's one of the **** things that comes with being human. It is the best way, though it might not feel like it at the moment. The tree sounds like a lovely idea.

I still think about my old cat from ten years ago, and I'm glad she had a good life. We,ve got two now, life does move on.

NegativeGee
11-30-2004, 04:18 PM
Thanks for all the replies, kind words, poems and ideas everyone.... they are much appreciated.

Gingers at rest now, and tommorrows another day as they say.


And J_Weaver, yes that put a smile on my face http://forums.ubi.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_smile.gif

T_O_A_D
11-30-2004, 04:36 PM
http://forums.ubi.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_frown.gif so sad to hear. It's always tough. I hate the end its so hard, I almost hate getting the little guys dreading the final days regardless of all the fun times they bring to the family. We almost had to do the same thing with our little dog a couple of months ago. We changed his diet, and he is doing fine even with a tumor in his belly. Aslong as he's *****y and not suffering I'll leave him be. The Vet said he'd be gone by now but alas the little guy is doing quite well. He is getting very impatient and bossy though. I only pray he does decide to loose the battle at Christmas.

F0_Dark_P
11-30-2004, 04:51 PM
That ghastly cancer we all know to well, how many life will it take, i am so sorry for your loss NegativeGee http://forums.ubi.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_frown.gif maybe stupid to say but just be strong.

Pain is what we feel when we miss, pain is burning in our hearts it never stops, but just be strong and cry out, just cry out for a moment, i know it is hard to think, but love comes again to the ones that feel the pain, so just be strong, and cry out for a moment, couse love comes back to the ones that miss.

F10_Dark P

i wrote the poem just now from my head, i dont know if its good but there it is to you http://forums.ubi.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_smile.gif

bazzaah2
11-30-2004, 04:52 PM
Sorry to hear that. I've not had a cat for a while but some friends of mine lost theirs recently and were very cut up about it. Sympathy.

WIFC_subg
11-30-2004, 04:54 PM
sorry to hear that, i will not know what to do when any of our 3 kitties pass on, I lost animals as a kid and its sad but in some ways i think its worse as an adult cos we have a greater developed empathy centre etc etc.
i have been involved in writing a book about all of these pet issues, its a comedy gift book called ***** and hey it might bring a smile to your face. its not appropriate to hard sell in this post but seriously i think most cat owners will enjoy so heres a link, we will in all likelyhood be doing a follow up and i will post on forums so if anyone wants fame and not fortune for their pets, here or gone then i will consider any pictures etc

www.ipussy.co.uk (http://www.ipussy.co.uk)

tHeBaLrOgRoCkS
11-30-2004, 05:18 PM
My condolences mate its always a tough decision and it never gets easier.

MOH_MADMAN
11-30-2004, 05:31 PM
yup hurts to have a pet go, every time..sry to hear it.
Had both my dogs go this year, two labradors, mom and her pup, a young 9 and 8 respectively, the pup just about a month ago, the mom back in april, both from cancer. It is the bargain we accept tho w the pets, they have a short life, far shorter than ours, and we have to accept that. Good home and love all thats required. I know ill be signing up again for that bargain shortly, it is greatly worth it in spite of the pain of the loss.
S~
MAD

woofiedog
11-30-2004, 11:00 PM
http://forums.ubi.com/images/smilies/16x16_smiley-sad.gifSorry about the Passing!

knightflyte
11-30-2004, 11:31 PM
It's tough.... they are family. No, they can't speak, but somehow we know what they want...or even more important what WE want.

Had a dog when I was a kid... lucky me. I still miss Candy. Got her from animal rescue league. She was the only one who didn't come to the door when we went looking for a dog. She was shivering and SCARED. We took her.

My friend had a dog since age 3. It was actually his Grandmothers (Gram) so it could have been before that. The dog would run away when it was sick. One day it ran away for good....(or so we thought)...She was gone for 2 years. By that time Gram passed away.
My friend and I were sitting in my car in his driveway listening to the radio and I saw in the rearview mirror his dog. Joe, "Terry is back." She was skinny and obviously very ill. She went to where Gram sat on the porch.
Terry must have known Joe's grandmother wasn't there anymore, and a half hour later she died,laying next to Gram's chair.
I didn't cry when Olde Yeller died but when Terry the black lab died WE both cried.

Sorry negative Gee.

regard,
Robert

chris455
11-30-2004, 11:49 PM
I feel for you Gee.
The thing that really sucks is, whenever we experience a loss like this, we just have to feel crummy about it until we're done feeling crummy. Anything we do to ignore it or make it go away only postpones the healing.

Heal soon, my friend.
Chris

Stiglr
11-30-2004, 11:57 PM
Sorry to hear that, man....

I got a house full of cats, and one is now getting really old... I'm bracing for the day... but in the meantime I can still enjoy his company.

adlabs6
12-01-2004, 12:05 AM
Sorry to hear that, my best to you in moving forward.

This past May, our dog Harry (named after Dirty Harry) was put to sleep, old age and a breathing difficulty were the cause. His age escapes me, I think he was born around '90 to '92. He had a good life, and loved playing with the family. Still every time I walk out the back door, I look to where his pen was to say 'Hi Harry' like I always did.

The sadness and missing him was hard, but now I really appreciate our years and memories together.

Gyre1
12-01-2004, 12:07 AM
Sorry to hear that. Yep, it's really hard losing a cat you're fond of. I was bummed for months once. On the other hand, losing a cat you don't like is a godsend. I've had both and one's as bad as the other is sweet. Weird.

Gyre

trumper
12-01-2004, 03:03 AM
http://forums.ubi.com/images/smilies/16x16_smiley-sad.gifPets are family,we've had our pets longer than we've had the children but they've grown up together.
The only positive thing is that you can have the say of when to put your pet out of it's misery when it starts to suffer.My old dog had cancer and we had him put down before he suffered but a friend of ours had cancer and apart from pumping him full of painkillers until he was so doped up we had to watch him suffer until he died http://forums.ubi.com/images/smilies/51.gif