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Carotio
01-18-2007, 01:54 PM
Well, she was the last of my grandparents, and for the last 4-5 years, she suffered from an Alzheimer like dicease, which meant she couldn't always recognize us and the correct words for objects and different things! For the last 3 months she had had a new drug, which made her very sleepy, so now she didn't even knew, if one was there or not, at least one never really knew. I saw her last time december 26th 2006, and I didn't visit her too much during the last year, because she couldn't even remember, if one was there yesterday or last year. She had no sence of time.
My mother called me earlier this evening: she was called by the guardians that my grandmother was sick. At 7, she was there, 45 minutes later the doctor came, he ordered an ambulance, at 8.30 she died silently at the hospital, most likely because she recently had got water in the lungues.

Now that she is gone, I feel really, really empty inside! Don't really know what to do....
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I know age catches up with all of us some day or another, and after all she was 82 years old, so she did get a long life. My grandfather died, age of 87, october 18th 2005, so it's not long time after. Well, at least not one of them suffer anymore....

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WilhelmSchulz.
01-18-2007, 01:58 PM
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I know the feeling mate. I lost my grandma sevral years ago. As well as my uncle. http://forums.ubi.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_frown.gif http://forums.ubi.com/images/smilies/bigtears.gif<div class="ev_tpc_signature">

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Kaleun1961
01-18-2007, 02:18 PM
Sorry to hear of your loss. Sadly, I never really got to know my grandparents very well; they all lived far from me in Newfoundland. They all died when I was very young, with the exception of my paternal grandfather who passed away when I was in my early teens, having only been able to visit with him a few times. Never got to really know any of them, I'm afraid; a loss I shall always carry with me.

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Realjambo
01-18-2007, 02:18 PM
Carotio

I'm sorry to hear your news. I'd lost all my Grand Parents by the time I was early 20's, some ten years ago. I can empathise with how you feel. Be strong for your Mother and your family, and don't be sorry about posting what you have on here. I wish you well.<div class="ev_tpc_signature">

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01-18-2007, 02:24 PM
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01-18-2007, 02:25 PM
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He restoreth my soul:
he leadeth me in the path of righteousness for his name's sake.
Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death,
I will fear no evil: for thou art with me; thy rod and thy staff they comfort me.
Thou preparest a table before me in the presence of mine enemies:
thou anointest my head with oil; my cup runneth over.
Surely goodness and mercy shall follow me all the days of my life:
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lecek
01-18-2007, 04:33 PM
I have one left so I know what you are going through.

I lived with two of them and my grandmother's sick bed was in our house. It is very sad but also a bit of a relief because she was suffering.

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VikingGrandad
01-18-2007, 05:02 PM
Carotio, I'm very sorry to hear about the loss of your grandmother. My condolences to you and your family.


Originally posted by Carotio:
Sorry to trouble you with this!
It's no trouble at all http://forums.ubi.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_smile.gif<div class="ev_tpc_signature">

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tuddley3
01-18-2007, 06:12 PM
Carotio, I feel for you my friend, and know it is not easy loosing grandparents. But like you said, at least she is not suffering anymore, and your family doesn't have to watch her suffer anymore. She is in a better place, and probably busy watching every move you make, so make her proud in what you choose in life.

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edjcox
01-18-2007, 11:43 PM
What you are doing is the right thing. Talk about and remember her especcially the times when she was really there for you.

I lost my mother to Alzheimers and it was sad and disheartening to know the shell you were trying to communicate with once could talk and actually gave you life. Mom passed on Thanksgiving morning a few years ago. The house filled with family and the smells of Thanksgiving. I like to think maybe te basic senses were still with her like smell.

Keep chatting and talking with folks. We all have but one life and sharing the journey is what makes it real.

As for me, I to can say the following prayer helps, I will not complete it but only begin it...

Our Father, who art in Heaven, Hallowed be thy name, thy kingdom come, thy will be done, on earth, as it is in........

Share your sense of loss with your mother as she will feel it very deeply...

Goodnight..

Michiel_88
01-19-2007, 01:00 AM
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Celeon999
01-19-2007, 01:19 AM
Im sorry http://forums.ubi.com/images/smilies/16x16_smiley-sad.gif

One grandmother died when i was about 5 years so i have very little memory about her.

My other grandmother still lives but my mother died a few months ago. http://forums.ubi.com/images/smilies/16x16_smiley-sad.gif

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Bonesattack
01-19-2007, 02:03 AM
Sorry for your loss man!

Its really hard loosing someone you've been close to most of your life, like my gran for example she's been dead for some time now...she had cancer. my only concelation is that she is at peace now...with my grandpa!
I remember all the great laughs we had...I smile when I think of my granny!

May God be with your family

hueywolf123
01-19-2007, 04:14 AM
My sincere condolonces buddy, I've lost all my grandparents now. Never forget her, she will always be near you<div class="ev_tpc_signature">

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Carotio
01-19-2007, 04:54 AM
Thank you all for your kind words!

It was one sleepless night! It must have been 5 o'clock or something before I fell asleep!

Well, talked to my mother at 10. She is to be buried next saturday, so that most of the relatives have time to come. However, my brother cannot attend, since he and a friend had ordered long time ago a voyage with departure next friday, and they had no insurance to cancel it. So he goes to say goodbye to her today with my mother. Actually, he went to say goodbye to our grand-father as well, just after it happened. And very odd indeed, both died the 18th, though 15 months apart, but even so. I must admit, I don't go today, both because there's a geographic distance between me and my family, so I don't go often, but when I go, it's for more days usually, and also because I don't really want to see her dead body. At funerals in Denmark, it's not a custom either to have an open cuffin during the ceremony in church. So I just have the last image of her in my mind now, of the last time I saw her. Completely doped from a new drug, which made her sleepy, so she could barely open her eyes, when I paid her a visit. I just sat next to her, holding her hands, and small-talked about this and that, and gave her a hug, when I left. I'm trying to think at other moments, but this was the last and thus the strongest memory for now....

Well, I think, I'm taking a shower now, trying to clear my thoughts! Later today, I go to a meeting about exchange students. I was going to be a buddy for a French exchange student, and she would arrive next friday. I hope she can reschedule and come earlier or later, otherwise it's just bad timing!

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Grell3
01-19-2007, 04:59 AM
I am truly sorry Carotio.

My prayers are with you and your family.

yours,

Grell

Abd_von_Mumit
01-19-2007, 11:08 AM
With two of my grandparents murdered in death camps and two of unknown fate I cannot say I understand your grief, cause 'I've never had one', but what I could say is: remember that for her all the sad, painful, bad is over. If religious, she has her heaven, if not, she just doesn't feel anything now - no diseases, pain, grief, fear, no tears. If you want to cry - cry, if you want to talk to her, do it till you are unable to say a word more... And cry again. Then sleep... sleep much. Then go sleep again... And as time passes, you'll find yourself more stable and more willing to smile and laugh, especially when you remember her on some occasions with good memories. I wish it to you.

ottoramsaig
01-19-2007, 11:26 AM
Sorry to of your loss, my thoughts and best wishes are with you

javas-revenge
01-19-2007, 01:29 PM
I am very sorry for you.

But myself had never met any grandparent
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Backdraft57
01-19-2007, 07:20 PM
The loss of one loved is very heart breaking. I am sorry for your loss and relate to your pain. I lost all of my grandparents and my dad in an 18 month period. There is just something really special about grandparents. Sorry Mate.

Mittelwaechter
01-20-2007, 10:09 AM
May her voice speaking to you as a child forever ring through your soul. Keep her in your heart and whenever you look up in the night you may see her dancing with your grandpa - dancing in the stars.

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Carotio
01-27-2007, 04:29 PM
just said goodbye to her for the last time saturday...

What a strange feeling that all four grandparents are gone now... http://forums.ubi.com/images/smilies/sadeyes.gif

My father said as a black humour joke that it was his generations turn next time.... My mother didn't like that remark of course! But we all know it, it will happen to all of us some day! http://forums.ubi.com/groupee_common/emoticons/icon_frown.gif

So let's make the best out of our lives and just be friends! http://forums.ubi.com/images/smilies/25.gif

I'm going to empty her room with my mother sunday, which will be a sad thing, but next week, I'm going to meet a lot of new people from around the world (exchange students), so no time for SH3 for awhile, but maybe for love..... http://forums.ubi.com/images/smilies/winky.gif

tuddley3
01-27-2007, 04:44 PM
Originally posted by Carotio:
but next week, I'm going to meet a lot of new people from around the world (exchange students), so no time for SH3 for awhile, but maybe for love..... http://forums.ubi.com/images/smilies/winky.gif

As we say in America, You POON HOUND http://forums.ubi.com/images/smilies/16x16_smiley-very-happy.gif Go get the ladies my friend, but don't forget about us, I am looking forward to more UA's, maybe some WAC-UA's if you get around to installing WAC. Maybe you and Hansolo could partner up and expand WAC, and make GWX modders cry http://forums.ubi.com/images/smilies/16x16_smiley-happy.gif