Sammurai50, you are using muscles that you've never had to train before and doing things with them that are totally alien to what they normally do. The thing you can take away from every single post you see here is that you should practice, practice, practice. There's nothing else going to make you better at this game. As you read others' posts, remember that this game is a little bit of the learning process. There's no one place that you can get it all, so look for YouTube videos, learning sites, dvd's, and books. Jam with friends if you can, even if it's just to play easy parts of songs and learn from them. Most of all, don't give up. When you get frustrated (and it will happen), take a break, maybe for a day, then come back. You'll be surprised at what you can do after a 24 hour lapse when you step away from a particularly difficult piece you've been working on.