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[Eclipse_788]

Look erm...if u have some time please look here.Basically i have a real life problem.Sometime in March i met my old friend,a 15 year old called Clair,who i had known since nursery as i was walking back 4rom school in Fulham.We used 2 do everything 2gether and we knew each other really well-we loved each other as friends 4 life.I always kept in touch with her even when we broke up in year 6 and i went 2 a all boys school-we were inseperable.

So as we were walking down to Fulham Broadway Station to go home 2 wimbledon,she stopped suddenly.She started gasping and i got scared and asked her what was wrong-she fell on her knees and collapsed on2 the ground.I had been learning CPR 4 the last 4 years and i turned her over and did EVERYTHING-i checked her airway,breathing did my rescue breaths,checked 4 signs of life,did compressions etc.Nobody on the street did anything 2 help me,they just stared at me like an idiot,not even when i asked them 2 dial 999 i had 2 do it myself.I did all this 4 30 mins(although it seemed longer)and by the time i had finished blood was running down my back(i had scissors sticking in my back thru my bag-i never had time 2 take my bag off my back.i have a scar there now).Finally the ambulance came and took Clair away.They wrote down my phone number and told me 2 go home-theyd call me back.
A while after i got back home,the phone rang and i picked it up(i dont want my parents 2 know).The doctor told me that she had died from a heart defect.

I have been regularly breaking down and am also crying at this moment in time.i would just like 2 know any advice on how 2 get over this.

I hope i havent taken up an of your time

Eclipse

[Eclipse_788]

Look erm...if u have some time please look here.Basically i have a real life problem.Sometime in March i met my old friend,a 15 year old called Clair,who i had known since nursery as i was walking back 4rom school in Fulham.We used 2 do everything 2gether and we knew each other really well-we loved each other as friends 4 life.I always kept in touch with her even when we broke up in year 6 and i went 2 a all boys school-we were inseperable.

So as we were walking down to Fulham Broadway Station to go home 2 wimbledon,she stopped suddenly.She started gasping and i got scared and asked her what was wrong-she fell on her knees and collapsed on2 the ground.I had been learning CPR 4 the last 4 years and i turned her over and did EVERYTHING-i checked her airway,breathing did my rescue breaths,checked 4 signs of life,did compressions etc.Nobody on the street did anything 2 help me,they just stared at me like an idiot,not even when i asked them 2 dial 999 i had 2 do it myself.I did all this 4 30 mins(although it seemed longer)and by the time i had finished blood was running down my back(i had scissors sticking in my back thru my bag-i never had time 2 take my bag off my back.i have a scar there now).Finally the ambulance came and took Clair away.They wrote down my phone number and told me 2 go home-theyd call me back.
A while after i got back home,the phone rang and i picked it up(i dont want my parents 2 know).The doctor told me that she had died from a heart defect.

I have been regularly breaking down and am also crying at this moment in time.i would just like 2 know any advice on how 2 get over this.

I hope i havent taken up an of your time

Eclipse

[EternalDirt]

Sorry to hear about it Eclipse
Firstly, u will not be able to 'get over' it just like that! BTW have u told your parents yet?
Basically you need to tlk to someone about this, as she was ur close friend, be it your parents, ur friends or someone she knew and even a counsellor at school.
I have had a similar experience and the best advice I can give u is don't bottle it up (U DID EVERYTHING U COULD HAVE!!). Talk to ur or even her friends and family about your experience. These things take time, unfortunatley! It really can damage a person
And as hard as it may seem, go to her funereal, u MUST say goodbye to her!
REMEMBER her best qualities and the fun times u had!
All the best

P.s. pls keep me posted!

[JhonenVasquez]

Ooo...hope your friend is in Heaven. Well try to think of the good things in your life that made you happy. Read something that conforts you. And if it makes you feel good, play SC:CT.

EDIT: Listen to some music also.

[Rbdb1R]

is 999 the emergency number in some other country?

[EternalDirt]

yeap it's the British equialent of 911

[Rbdb1R]

oh ok cuz i was gonna say "no wonder they were staring at you like you were an idiot if you were telling them to call 999"

[JoNAsOS3]

I feel really sorry for you Eclipse
I don't know how you can get over something like that... Sorry.
Maby someone to talk too; your parents maby...

I hope you feel better soon

[Eclipse_788]

I went to her funeral yesterday...i had one look at that coffin and i broke down straight away...****...girls are good at making u feel better but i cant c any on this forum.Ah well thnx guys but i still cant get over it.I broke down like 5 times while reading my speach.i still think that its my fault!What if i cocked something up on CPR?Im only 15!?And itd be my fault that shes bloody dead and that i cant do anything right in life in the end!!!:{

[Eclipse_788]

loook soz after all that i shouldnt be shouting but thanking you 4 all that youve done.hell i just need a hug 2 cool me down