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[Heinrich505]

Huey,
Ouch, that one hurts. We got a little framed picture on our wedding day, with the announcement done up in thread and decorations, and of course the date is on it. It is hanging in the bedroom, so every now and then I check it, just to make sure. I have the month for sure in my head, but the date....not always first thing in my memory banks, which are failing with old age, ha ha. This has worked for 25 years.

Have one made up, present it to her for a gift, and as a means of atonement, and then you are set. It is always on the wall. Hope you escape the doghouse soon. Good Luck.

Heinrich505

[Foehammer-1]

Good luck Huey! Not yet married either, but I will take your advice for the future!

Good luck escaping that dog-house. By the way, where did the dog go in the meantime??

[Chr1s1968]

My son was born on the 7th of Feb this year and my birthday is the 9th and the missus in the ensuing chaos forgot my birthday so I have a get out of jail free card at my disposal. Unfortunately Huey giving it to you won't help.

[hueywolf123]

<BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-title">quote:</div><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-content">Originally posted by Heinrich505:
Huey,
Ouch, that one hurts. We got a little framed picture on our wedding day, with the announcement done up in thread and decorations, and of course the date is on it. It is hanging in the bedroom, so every now and then I check it, just to make sure. I have the month for sure in my head, but the date....not always first thing in my memory banks, which are failing with old age, ha ha. This has worked for 25 years.

Have one made up, present it to her for a gift, and as a means of atonement, and then you are set. It is always on the wall. Hope you escape the doghouse soon. Good Luck.

Heinrich505 </div></BLOCKQUOTE>
The 'Out-laws', had a cross-stitch wall hanging (apologies to all those with good taste out there), of our wedding day with names, dates etc on it.
I look at it every morning as I wake. Complacency breeds contempt, so they say. I have no excuses. Two weeks on and she's still at her brothers.
Nope, buy me a bigger shovel, I'll see how much deeper I can dig....
Thanks guys

[Mittelwaechter]

Two weeks? You're sure your relationship WAS ok before that anniversary?

And how long do you want to wait?

Go over there and tell her how much you need her! Tell her those two weeks where hell for you...
You should know what she wants to hear, but take the action!


For all my brothers out there sharing their life with a being called woman:

get you two books - read them and try to understand. Prepare arguments for discussion!
Then ask her to read them.

Allan & Barbara Pease

"Why Men Don't Have A Clue & Women Always Need More Shoes!"

and

"Why Men Can Only Do One Thing.....And Women Never Stop Talking"

If you wish to know something about women, these books are for you. And they are really fun to read. But be aware - it's more fun and less science.

[Kaleun1961]

I thought John Gray's "Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus" summed it up quite nicely.

Men Are from Mars...

<BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-title">quote:</div><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-content"> Concepts Gray espouses in his books include:


[edit] The point system
Gray suggests that men and women count (or score) the giving and receiving of love differently. For men, they tend to give larger blocks of points (20, 30, 40 points etc.) whereas for women they give each act of love one point at a time.

Men and women each monitor the amount of give and take in a relationship and if the balance becomes off and one person feels they have given more than they have been given to, resentment flu develops. This is a time when communication is very important to help bring the relationship back into balance.

Example: A man might count a $200 present as 20 points, but a woman will count each individual piece of the present as 1 point each. For her, the total sum of points comes from the present as a whole. For example, the different parts of the environment where the present is give each get 1 point (candles, music, privacy, location etc.) the card gets 1 point, the flowers get 1 point, the gift wrap gets 1 point and the gift itself gets 1 point. Their totals may even out to be the same, but it's the act of scoring that is different.

The emotional stroke delivered by the sincere attention is as important as the value of the item. This can lead to conflict when a man thinks his work has earned 20 points and deserves appropriate recognition while the female has only given him 1 point and recognizes him accordingly.

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Guys, do you see what we are up against when trying to decypher the being known as woman?

[M0ttie]

<BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-title">quote:</div><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-content">By the way, where did the dog go in the meantime?? </div></BLOCKQUOTE>
If its like my mutt which is mummies pet then anywhere it bl00dy wants!.........

[StgShultz]

Soooo...that means a card with emotional blurb get me the same number of points as say a $2000 ring? Cooool

[NVCoyote]

<BLOCKQUOTE class="ip-ubbcode-quote"><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-title">quote:</div><div class="ip-ubbcode-quote-content">Originally posted by Kaleun1961:
Guys, do you see what we are up against when trying to decypher the being known as woman? </div></BLOCKQUOTE>

Reminds me of an old joke:

Two guys are sitting at a bar morosely stareing over their beers. The first guy says, "You know, I just don't understand women. At all." The second guy replies "Do you understand color TV?" The first guy thinks for a moment and then answers "No. I don't." The second guy says, "So what's the problem?"