what would i, a fellow make maker, use to make some of my actions in the video occur "on beat" with the music i play in the background. for example in my movie i do a kick flip. how could i make the trick end at the same time thatyou hear the sound of a drum in a song.(making a song is not a option)

Making cuts to the beat has to be your starting point. add the video to the music, not the music to the video.Start with a good selection of short clips, and have at least 2 camera angles on each scene (so you can cut one to the other "on beat").

It's pretty standard practice these days to use "Time stretching" when producing an audio track from samples.This ensures that timings are all in sync.

All you'd need to do is apply this principle to the video track(no problem in Vegas or V Dub, but probably not as easy as it sounds without using SMPTE).