Okay, so, my Rl friends are being no help so, ladies, would it be awesome to get rose pedals in your birthday present box with the present or would you rather not and just get the present?

Also, gentlemen, would it be dorky to give a gift to a girl with rose pedals in the box?

are you in any way involved with this girl?

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Originally posted by s3Yuri:
Okay, so, my Rl friends are being no help so, ladies, would it be awesome to get rose pedals in your birthday present box with the present or would you rather not and just get the present?

Also, gentlemen, would it be dorky to give a gift to a girl with rose pedals in the box?

I wouldn't think about it to much! You thought of the idea I think you should go for it!!!

I think it's cute~!

Just make sure the rose isnt dead. :/

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Originally posted by ERRR151:
are you in any way involved with this girl?

lol, thats a person question and non of your business perv! jk,

um yes, in a way, not romanticly, its a long story, the end of it is we are long time friends and yes i have feelings for her.

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Originally posted by brookelyn_FD:

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Originally posted by s3Yuri:
Okay, so, my Rl friends are being no help so, ladies, would it be awesome to get rose pedals in your birthday present box with the present or would you rather not and just get the present?

Also, gentlemen, would it be dorky to give a gift to a girl with rose pedals in the box?

I wouldn't think about it to much! You thought of the idea I think you should go for it!!!

I think it's cute~!

Thanks!
and yea, I'll try to make sure it isn't dead, she stays far away and since I can't give it to her in person, I'm just gonna mail it this year.

I'd give her the present separate from the flowers. Since she lives far away, if you could show up with it yourself and the flowers in hand, you'll be big pimpin'.

I'd really really like to do that Pino, but circumstances prevent me from doing so at the moment, I'm shipping it first class though

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Originally posted by s3Yuri:
I'd really really like to do that Pino, but circumstances prevent me from doing so at the moment, I'm shipping it first class though

Stepping up your game and shipping Priority would really show her.

I think it's a genuinely nice idea, and it could work. Just make sure she has feelings for you too. Roses, while they may not symbolize it to all, are thought by most to be a sign of attraction/love/romance not love like "You're my best friend, I love you." If she has feelings for you then go with roses. If she isn't or you aren't necessarily trying to get across that you have feelings go with something different.

A safe bet is this, I think: If you're not sure how she'll take it, maybe go with Gerber Daisies or something that is still nice, but may have less of a i-love-you-in-a-romantic-way sort of feel... Ship it first class so it gets there and DON'T PUT THE FLOWERS IN UNTIL YOU ARE READY TO SEND IT. Maybe trim the flowers off so they aren't just petals but are whole flowers, minus the stems, and put a few of those in? For gerber daisies you could get a few single stems of different colors... orange, yellow, red, white (good fall colors).

I like the way you think, and I think you've got a great idea. But be wary with roses.

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Originally posted by sarabellum-86:

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Originally posted by s3Yuri:
I'd really really like to do that Pino, but circumstances prevent me from doing so at the moment, I'm shipping it first class though

Stepping up your game and shipping Priority would really show her.

Hahaha. Nothing says ballin' like priority shippin' yo!

Rose pedals with a present? I think that is extremely sweet.

I think you should do it for sure, it's very romantic, and most of us girls loooove romantic gestures.

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Originally posted by s3Yuri:

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Originally posted by ERRR151:
are you in any way involved with this girl?

lol, thats a person question and non of your business perv! jk,

um yes, in a way, not romanticly, its a long story, the end of it is we are long time friends and yes i have feelings for her.

Beware

The rose petals don't necessarily matter in the grand scheme of things. You're telling her you have feelings for her. She either does, or she doesn't. Rose petals aren't going to convince her or change her mind. It might score you points, but you can always do that on the first date or whenever you feel like it.

I wouldn't send her a gift to tell her you have feelings for her. That sounds sweet and all, but that pretty much only works in movies and romance novels. The girls here only swoon and go "awwww" because they're imagining a guy they have feelings for giving it to them. If a guy they didn't feel that way about gave it to them, it'd be a totally different story, trust me. It'd just be awkward.

Only do it if you're pretty damn sure she feels the same way. Friendships are never the same afterward. If you're not certain, that means you need to do more wooing and flirting.

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Originally posted by tibbsy07:
I think it's a genuinely nice idea, and it could work. Just make sure she has feelings for you too. Roses, while they may not symbolize it to all, are thought by most to be a sign of attraction/love/romance not love like "You're my best friend, I love you." If she has feelings for you then go with roses. If she isn't or you aren't necessarily trying to get across that you have feelings go with something different.

A safe bet is this, I think: If you're not sure how she'll take it, maybe go with Gerber Daisies or something that is still nice, but may have less of a i-love-you-in-a-romantic-way sort of feel... Ship it first class so it gets there and DON'T PUT THE FLOWERS IN UNTIL YOU ARE READY TO SEND IT. Maybe trim the flowers off so they aren't just petals but are whole flowers, minus the stems, and put a few of those in? For gerber daisies you could get a few single stems of different colors... orange, yellow, red, white (good fall colors).

I like the way you think, and I think you've got a great idea. But be wary with roses.

Thanks, I've given her roses for like Valentine's Day so, I'm 100% sure that she and just about everyone else knows where I stand in terms of whether or not I'm in love with her lol, so, roses are the constant in this equation. Besides, we are close, its not like I've known her for a year or even two, she's pretty much my best friend, i've known her for like ever. I do like the idea of adding in some rosebuds, and I think I will use the petals of white roses and the buds of red ones


And yea maybe I've been thrown in the friend zone, but I've never been one to quit... stalkers also have this trait...

but no worries, I don't want to discuss my personal matters lol, I just wanted to get some opinions about the present & petals. And thanks Melonie, I think she likes romantic things as well.

I'll make sure I don't buy the flowers until I'm ready to send it (roses have very short lifespans when not in water), and yea, overnight shipping ftw right? wait, is their anything faster than that?

Haha, I'm glad I don't have to play the role of the "bitter cynic" (someone already beat me to it!), since I've been told I play the part well. But I'll say it, anyway. Bitter Cynic says:

This won't end well.

Realistically speaking, if what you are saying is correct (that you two have been friends for a very long time), there is a HUGE probability that she ONLY sees you as that - as a friend. The longer time passes without you telling how you really feel about her, the smaller your window of opportunity becomes.

I hate to go against the grain, but... avoid the rose petals altogether (or pedals, depending on what you're really planning on putting in that box). You'll save yourself the awkwardness and embarassment. It's not that I don't believe in romance, don't get me wrong. It's just that I truly believe that it's a little... too late for you.

But cheer up, kid. I'm not just a cynic. I am also a gambler. Stupid Gambler says:

There are exceptions to the rule.

I know of at least one forum member here who WAS friends with her significant other at first, and it worked out for her. Keep in mind though, that in this premise, she felt the EXACT same way for the other guy. So if you were to go with your plan, you are going to be under the presumption that she has been HOLDING OUT FOR YOU for that long! The million dollar question is: "Does she feel the same way?"

So what the hell, eh? Gamble. A small percent possibility is still far BETTER than zero possibility, and I'd definitely take those chances. You can't always play it safe, in life. You will never truly feel alive, if you don't take chances - you will only feel REGRET later on. But at the same time, don't make stupid gambles. Make SMART ones. If you truly feel that the reward far outweighs the risk, then I say, go for it. But only YOU would know this, and nobody else... and inevitably, no amount of advice is going to help you here...

... unless, of course, you only came here to hear what you want to hear. But I'm rooting for you, anyway. I love any and all underdogs!

This is where you come in and tell me: "Thanks for the non-help, Ukyo!"

You're welcome.

Judging by the petals, you are in love with the girl. So my suggestion is; Buy a mirror, get it cut. Exact same as the bottom of the box you are going to give her. Then put the mirror in the box, put petals in it also. Then give it to her. Whenever she opens the box, say: "You are the most beautiful girl in this world, I couldn't find anything more beautiful than you to give to you" Does it sound too cheesy?

Hmmm, I felt like I'm a womanizer for a second. Perhaps too cheesy. But you are not going to lose anything, just try.

Screw it. Forget everything else.

Just put your d!ck in a box.

Birthday? D!ck in a Box.

Valentines? D!ck in a Box.

Hannukah? D!ck in a Box.

And that's the way you do it!

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Originally posted by UkyoTachibana:
Haha, I'm glad I don't have to play the role of the "bitter cynic" (someone already beat me to it!), since I've been told I play the part well.

Some would say it's what I do best.

At the risk of continuing to sound negative, I have to agree with some of what Ukyo said. Sure, there's a lot to gain if it works out. But there's likely much more to lose. Like Ukyo said, it's a gamble. Just make sure it's a smart one. Just be smart, these types of situations have a nasty habit of ****ing with your instincts.

Regardless of the cynicism, I hope you prove me wrong.

It's starting to sound like you think it's a bad idea and because your rl friends didn't help out you posted here to get enough people saying "do it" to justify doing it.

When in doubt, flip a coin

As on opinion? Ditch the flowers unless you start dating and just go with heartfelt gifts. You don't want to peak too early with the gift giving/presentations.