I can't seem to turn it off for the 3rd person view. I choose extreme instead of normal when the option came when choosing a plane but now that option isn't here anymore. Its not in control settings either. How can I go back to normal rather than extreme handling?

Here's how you can change back your assistance off to normal. Options->General Settings->Control Type and switch that value from Expert to Normal.

Enjoy.

Yeah but it has to be options on the main menu. Thats what confused me for awhile