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Originally posted by erco415:
Airmail, like I was saying, I think you're both right and wrong. Right, because there are plenty of cultures where the concept of family as Mom, Dad, and the kids is absent and they seem to get on alright. Right, because it's clear that an extended family is a very good way to raise children. And right because fidelity to one mate is a struggle for so many, and the common occurance of mistresses and lovers, covertly or not.

But, wrong because there are so many that have found the deepest happiness in the embrace of just one. And wrong, because some fires, once started, never go out.

And I havn't studied this under professors or read about it in some anthropology book. But poets and playwrights know something about it, as do those who have looked into such a fire.

It is mystery, the how and the why of it. But there is no questioning the truth of it. It is.

Don't know, one part of me thinks real love was more common once. But cynical modern life killed it.

Men have a first love, Women a last. You see up until about 25, 95 percent of women actually do not care for love. That's not because they are mean or cold hearted but simply they are more emotionally intelligent than men. I'm not saying this with any bitterness, but that's the truth. Then when they get to 25-30 they've usually managed to get some guy with as good a social/genetic status as they think they can get and then eventually they fall in love with him. Then the bloke more often than not cheats on her.

You see the bloke had a first love and got ****ed over, then became a bastard. Those that manage to actually make something work that is real and what you'd call "mature" love are those where both partners come to the conclusion at the same time that everything they've learnt about relationships over the past 25+ years is wrong.

Life is hilarious cruel, the two sexes mentally move in opposite directions during a large portion of their lifetimes.

Brother, you may have a point, about modern life and true love.

I'm thinking, though, that you must be living in a tough neighborhood. Because, when I was a younger man, the girls were all thinking about love before they could drive.

For myself, some days I don't know if a love that lives beyond my understanding is a blessing or a curse. But most days, I do.

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Originally posted by Aimail101:
Those that manage to actually make something work that is real and what you'd call "mature" love are those where both partners come to the conclusion at the same time that everything they've learnt about relationships over the past 25+ years is wrong.

or they were 2 people who were taught from an early age to have a moral backbone